And so a new decade of life begins for me real soon. The big five-O. Am I looking forward to it? I will have to say yes for there is no other way but forward, and downhill (physically, but not emotionally or spiritually, I am in a good place here).
The last year has been, as I see it, my year of jubilee and it has been full of many lessons in how I should be living. I hope to be doing what I have learned for the rest of my life:
1) Be kind to the body: sleep early, eat healthily, eat less (I recently discovered how much I overeat), cut sugar (it's addictive), fat and alcohol, and EXERCISE.
2) Especially when it comes to health, prevention is better than the cure. Popping meds should not become part of one's lifestyle as far as possible. There are always side effects.
3) Schedule appointments with more downtime in between. It's bad to be in a constant rush. Use the time-outs to be mindful, live in your body and breathe. An examen consciousness would not be amiss.
4) Food is health and can be healing. Do not load junk into the body. If you do want to feel halfway decent when you are 75, eat properly. Start now, not tomorrow.
5) If you abuse your body, expect it to bite back. Don't act surprised when you are in pain or worse, and wimp out by taking painkillers. Remember the pain and try not to repeat the experience.
6) Compliment someone genuinely, be kind to someone and help someone at least once a day. This is food for the soul.
7) Consciously breathe in the love of God and gently breathe out gratitude in the quiet moments of the day. It is a great way to de-stress, and so fundamental for a rich, spiritual life.
8) Laugh as often as you can throughout the day. You get to exercise your abs and keep the blues at bay at the same time.
9) Tell your mother or father you love them in ways creative and infinite every day. Your time with them is pure gift, appreciate it and use it well.
10) Use technology wisely and only as necessary. Do not become a slave to it and live only in a virtual world. Live in the real world by being present to those around you, including the Almighty.
11) Smile at strangers and acknowledge their presence instead of texting on your phone and ignoring them. Remember we are created human, that is to be social, to connect with one another, enriching each other's lives.
12) It is good to experience hunger from time to time and not feed it immediately. Offer it up in solidarity with those who are starving in the world.
13) Do not waste food. It is a sin. Quality is also better than quantity. So savour, don't gorge. Gluttony is yet another sin.
14) When you feel down, remember there are many others much worse off than you. Your problems are nothing compared to theirs. A little perspective is always helpful, as is quiet time with the Lord.
15) Less is more. Learn to live simply and do without. Stuff is just stuff - it buys you a scant five minutes of pure pleasure, and is inconsequential when you are dead. Store up treasures in heaven that moths and rust cannot destroy (Matthew 6:20).
16) When you worry about finances remember God will always provide. Just do your part and things will work out, somehow.
17) Never compromise your principles. Integrity is everything. As the Bible goes For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world, and forfeit his soul? (Mark 8:36)
18) There is always a way out. With God, a dead end can be a place of grace for it is here that He performs the most amazing miracles. Trust Him.
19) When you least feel the presence of God, practise the virtue of faith by choosing to believe and act accordingly. Like Mother Teresa did.
20) Never be too proud to ask for a helping hand. Give others the opportunity to love you.
21) As Emily Dickinson wrote:
Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all
22) My SD likes to tell me: Women are created to beautify the world. He is right, so take pride in your appearance without getting obsessively vain. Handsome is as handsome does.
23) When you think you are better than others, that's when you most definitely are not. We are all created equal in dignity, and in the image and likeness of God. Dissing others is dissing God.
24) The need for instant gratification breeds instant rudeness and selfishness. Think of others before you think of yourself.
25) Be polite and considerate in all circumstances. There is no excuse for rudeness even when others are rude. Living graciously is a constant, conscious decision.
26) Profanities are for the lazy and the vulgar. A good woman (or man) should never be vulgar or lazy.
27) Faith is not a feeling, a happy clappy high. Faith is honouring the love one has received in the past, and paying it forward.
28) We cannot save the world, but we can always try to make someone's day a little brighter. Look for little ways to do what you can to tip the balance towards good.
29) Go green. It's the only way we can keep Mother Earth looking beautiful and feeling good.
30) Always look for a better way to do things. The old ways, status quo, may not always be the best, although, sometimes, they are gold and should be honoured.
31) Happiness is always within our grasp, we just have to know where to find it. Psychologist Martin Seligman proposes starting with forgiveness and gratitude.
32) Praise and thank God for everything, even major setbacks and grave losses. It is the fastest way to defeat adversity and rebuild what has been destroyed.
33) Shopping or eating cannot fill the gaping hole within you. Prayer can.
34) I don't have to like growing old but I can choose to do so gracefully. It takes hard work, there are no short cuts, but it is well worth it.
35) Isaiah 61 is the song of my life, and the true mission of every human being. Sing it every day.
36) We can never change people, but we can help them to change, if, and when, they desire it.
37) Seek the best for others, not the best for you. Leave that to the Lord to reveal to you, in His time.
38) Ageing is part of life, embrace it and use it to your advantage. You may be slower but your step is surer.
39) The beauty of nature is the best balm for a jaded, weary spirit. Take a walk and let nature, the Creator, speak and minister to you in beauty.
40) We don't have to like everyone for we are all created to be different and unique, but we can find unity in love, and become part of the same body of Christ.
41) Love of God means love of neighbour, especially those we despise or cannot stand. No one said loving was an easy decision to execute, something Jesus appreciates and understands - seek His help on this.
42) God is in the details, of your life and mine. He does not miss a thing. So depend on Him for everything, all the time.
43) Judge not, lest ye be judged (Matthew 7:1). Extremely hard to accomplish, yet with God, all things are possible. Rely on the Holy Spirit for help on this.
44) Never seek to be what you are not, but accept who you are and grow into your own being. That is all the Father wants, that we see ourselves as He sees us, precious and beloved.
45) It does not matter if you are disliked, ugly and unloveable, for Jesus loves you and that love is enough to fill you up and paint your world in glorious technicolour. His love and grace are truly enough.
46) Precisely because life is complex and people are complicated that truth comes in many forms, textures and colours. However, Jesus is unmistakably THE WAY, THE TRUTH and THE LIFE.
47) If change is a constant, why do we expect things to stay the same? Rather than mourn the way things used to be, celebrate the here and now with gratitude and real enthusiasm.
48) While I abhor my weaknesses, I know they are where God's power can be manifested most perfectly, if I offer them up in humility and openness of heart.
49) Clean hands and pure heart - that is all I wish for every birthday, every day. For with clean hands and pure heart, I will have gazed upon the face of God. I can die happy.
50) Let me never forget the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, the Trinitarian God, is my all in all. My north, my south, my east and west. Without Him, I am lost.
The last year has been, as I see it, my year of jubilee and it has been full of many lessons in how I should be living. I hope to be doing what I have learned for the rest of my life:
1) Be kind to the body: sleep early, eat healthily, eat less (I recently discovered how much I overeat), cut sugar (it's addictive), fat and alcohol, and EXERCISE.
2) Especially when it comes to health, prevention is better than the cure. Popping meds should not become part of one's lifestyle as far as possible. There are always side effects.
3) Schedule appointments with more downtime in between. It's bad to be in a constant rush. Use the time-outs to be mindful, live in your body and breathe. An examen consciousness would not be amiss.
4) Food is health and can be healing. Do not load junk into the body. If you do want to feel halfway decent when you are 75, eat properly. Start now, not tomorrow.
5) If you abuse your body, expect it to bite back. Don't act surprised when you are in pain or worse, and wimp out by taking painkillers. Remember the pain and try not to repeat the experience.
6) Compliment someone genuinely, be kind to someone and help someone at least once a day. This is food for the soul.
7) Consciously breathe in the love of God and gently breathe out gratitude in the quiet moments of the day. It is a great way to de-stress, and so fundamental for a rich, spiritual life.
8) Laugh as often as you can throughout the day. You get to exercise your abs and keep the blues at bay at the same time.
9) Tell your mother or father you love them in ways creative and infinite every day. Your time with them is pure gift, appreciate it and use it well.
10) Use technology wisely and only as necessary. Do not become a slave to it and live only in a virtual world. Live in the real world by being present to those around you, including the Almighty.
11) Smile at strangers and acknowledge their presence instead of texting on your phone and ignoring them. Remember we are created human, that is to be social, to connect with one another, enriching each other's lives.
12) It is good to experience hunger from time to time and not feed it immediately. Offer it up in solidarity with those who are starving in the world.
13) Do not waste food. It is a sin. Quality is also better than quantity. So savour, don't gorge. Gluttony is yet another sin.
14) When you feel down, remember there are many others much worse off than you. Your problems are nothing compared to theirs. A little perspective is always helpful, as is quiet time with the Lord.
15) Less is more. Learn to live simply and do without. Stuff is just stuff - it buys you a scant five minutes of pure pleasure, and is inconsequential when you are dead. Store up treasures in heaven that moths and rust cannot destroy (Matthew 6:20).
16) When you worry about finances remember God will always provide. Just do your part and things will work out, somehow.
17) Never compromise your principles. Integrity is everything. As the Bible goes For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world, and forfeit his soul? (Mark 8:36)
18) There is always a way out. With God, a dead end can be a place of grace for it is here that He performs the most amazing miracles. Trust Him.
19) When you least feel the presence of God, practise the virtue of faith by choosing to believe and act accordingly. Like Mother Teresa did.
20) Never be too proud to ask for a helping hand. Give others the opportunity to love you.
21) As Emily Dickinson wrote:
Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all
22) My SD likes to tell me: Women are created to beautify the world. He is right, so take pride in your appearance without getting obsessively vain. Handsome is as handsome does.
23) When you think you are better than others, that's when you most definitely are not. We are all created equal in dignity, and in the image and likeness of God. Dissing others is dissing God.
24) The need for instant gratification breeds instant rudeness and selfishness. Think of others before you think of yourself.
25) Be polite and considerate in all circumstances. There is no excuse for rudeness even when others are rude. Living graciously is a constant, conscious decision.
26) Profanities are for the lazy and the vulgar. A good woman (or man) should never be vulgar or lazy.
27) Faith is not a feeling, a happy clappy high. Faith is honouring the love one has received in the past, and paying it forward.
28) We cannot save the world, but we can always try to make someone's day a little brighter. Look for little ways to do what you can to tip the balance towards good.
29) Go green. It's the only way we can keep Mother Earth looking beautiful and feeling good.
30) Always look for a better way to do things. The old ways, status quo, may not always be the best, although, sometimes, they are gold and should be honoured.
31) Happiness is always within our grasp, we just have to know where to find it. Psychologist Martin Seligman proposes starting with forgiveness and gratitude.
32) Praise and thank God for everything, even major setbacks and grave losses. It is the fastest way to defeat adversity and rebuild what has been destroyed.
33) Shopping or eating cannot fill the gaping hole within you. Prayer can.
34) I don't have to like growing old but I can choose to do so gracefully. It takes hard work, there are no short cuts, but it is well worth it.
35) Isaiah 61 is the song of my life, and the true mission of every human being. Sing it every day.
36) We can never change people, but we can help them to change, if, and when, they desire it.
37) Seek the best for others, not the best for you. Leave that to the Lord to reveal to you, in His time.
38) Ageing is part of life, embrace it and use it to your advantage. You may be slower but your step is surer.
39) The beauty of nature is the best balm for a jaded, weary spirit. Take a walk and let nature, the Creator, speak and minister to you in beauty.
40) We don't have to like everyone for we are all created to be different and unique, but we can find unity in love, and become part of the same body of Christ.
41) Love of God means love of neighbour, especially those we despise or cannot stand. No one said loving was an easy decision to execute, something Jesus appreciates and understands - seek His help on this.
42) God is in the details, of your life and mine. He does not miss a thing. So depend on Him for everything, all the time.
43) Judge not, lest ye be judged (Matthew 7:1). Extremely hard to accomplish, yet with God, all things are possible. Rely on the Holy Spirit for help on this.
44) Never seek to be what you are not, but accept who you are and grow into your own being. That is all the Father wants, that we see ourselves as He sees us, precious and beloved.
45) It does not matter if you are disliked, ugly and unloveable, for Jesus loves you and that love is enough to fill you up and paint your world in glorious technicolour. His love and grace are truly enough.
46) Precisely because life is complex and people are complicated that truth comes in many forms, textures and colours. However, Jesus is unmistakably THE WAY, THE TRUTH and THE LIFE.
47) If change is a constant, why do we expect things to stay the same? Rather than mourn the way things used to be, celebrate the here and now with gratitude and real enthusiasm.
48) While I abhor my weaknesses, I know they are where God's power can be manifested most perfectly, if I offer them up in humility and openness of heart.
49) Clean hands and pure heart - that is all I wish for every birthday, every day. For with clean hands and pure heart, I will have gazed upon the face of God. I can die happy.
50) Let me never forget the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, the Trinitarian God, is my all in all. My north, my south, my east and west. Without Him, I am lost.